that you may have put off or have tried not to think about
- When you think about the last phase of your life, what’s most important to you? How would you like this phase to be?
- When you think about the last phase of your life, what’s most important to you? How would you like this phase to be?
- Do you have any particular concerns about your health? About the last phase of your life?
- Who do you want — or not want — to be involved in your care? Who would you like to make decisions on your behalf if you’re not able to? (This person is your healthcare agent.)
- Are there any disagreements or family tensions that you’re concerned about?
- What is your preference for the location to receive care? (A hospital, nursing facility, in your own home.) Are there certain types of treatment you would want or not want? (Resuscitation if your heart stops, breathing machine, feeding tube.)
- When would it be okay to shift from a focus on curative care to a focus on comfort care alone?
Once you’re shared your thoughts, it’s important to know what you expect of your loved ones. Do you want them to do exactly what you have requested, even if it makes them uncomfortable? Or do you prefer to have your family do what brings them peace, even if it goes against what you’ve requested?